How to Manifest Your Best Life in 2019 Part 2

Welcome to part 2 of a 5-part series of articles on how to manifest your desires!
Let's make 2019 an incredible, memorable, wildly satisfying year. We're going to get intentional together about what we really want to bring into our lives in the new year. Now let's get to Step 2! If you missed Part 1, start there.

Step 2: Why you haven't gotten what you want yet: Understanding the payoff to staying stuck 

There are many reasons why you may not have manifested what you want already in life. Beliefs about what is possible for you or in life in general, your focus has been elsewhere, a health challenge, etc. But today I'm going to focus on one reason to get conscious of now so that you can start manifesting with more ease... The benefits to staying stuck!

I know, how could there be any benefits to not getting what I want? You're wondering. Oh, but there are so very many. To name a few:

• Staying in your comfort zone- even if it's sort of uncomfortable- is familiar
• Not having to rock the boat, tell others you've changed, or change a situation that affects others
• You get to feel like a martyr or victim of your circumstances when they aren't going your way
• You get to impress yourself and/or others will how much crap you can put up with
• It's easier to believe that life simply happens to you, versus having to take responsibility for your own life improvement
• Some part of your identity is wrapped up in the thing you don't want any more (i.e. if I'm a lawyer but really want to change careers, how will people think of me then? Where will my sense of self-worth or prestige come from?)
• You don't have to do any work to make what you want happen if you believe it isn't possible

I could go on and on. There are a million reasons to not get what you want. Staying stuck can be AWESOME for all of the above reasons... Until it's not. And if you're ready to be, do, or have something you really want, you have to become conscious of all the ways in which you benefit from NOT making a change.

Ask yourself, if I don't get what I want, how do I benefit?
Who do I get to save/not hurt?
How is my identity affected? For example, if you have believed your whole life that to be an artist you must also be poor (the starving artist), and all of your artist friends are poor, perhaps you worry that increasing your success and income could alienate them. Maybe it's better to just stay where you're at, appreciate the community you have, etc.

See how easy it is to turn your back on what you want?

I'm guilty of this too. I don't want to take responsibility for everything that I want. It's so much easier to just whine about things when they aren't going well! But there comes a point when it's time to say, you know what? I've wanted ___ for 5, 10, 20 years. I'm sick of not having it. I'm ready to let go of everything that stands in my way. This process of honestly looking at how you benefit from your own stuck-ness is a huge key to moving forward.

In my next article I'll discuss the other reality to going after your dreams- the loss of what used to be when you make any change- even if it's just your comfort zone. This is why the dream has to be bigger and more exciting than anything you're giving up in the process of getting it.
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Happy New Beginnings!